Introduction to Pre-Marital Counseling
We’re very excited for your engagement, as you move toward marriage.
Thank you for the privilege of assisting you and your fiancée as youseek out pre-marital counseling with Clarke Family Therapy.
Below is a brief introduction is a short guide as to what premarital counselingincludes and a description of the Process.
WHY PREMARITAL COUNSELING?
There are five purposes for premarital counseling.
First, we want to help you build a solid, foundation as you start your marriage.
Secondly, we want to help you begin a dialogue about your marriage. There are a host of topics (communication, finances, sex, parenting,etc.) that we think are important to consider before you get married. The good news is that the conversation we are beginning is alife-‐long process. We’ll solve some problems, but many others will be left for you to work though over the course of your entiremarriage. We’ll start the dialogue, and leave the rest to you.
Thirdly, we will point out areas of concern in your relationship. No relationship is perfect. Despite all of your premarital bliss, you are goingto have problems, conflict, and struggles in your relationship. We want to help you address these difficulties sooner rather than later. So,the more honest you are about your struggles, the more you will facilitate the pastor’s ability to help you in preparation for marriage.
Fourthly, we want to prepare you for the marriage, and not just the wedding day. We often find that couples get caught up in the franticdetails of preparing for the wedding day, and don’t spend much time getting ready for the marriage. Premarital counseling is meant toslow you down and help you think about the relationship. The wedding day marks the beginning of your life together, but the marriagewill last for the rest of your life. So, it is good for you to take time to prepare for this life-‐ long journey together.